Your Expectations

Everyone wants something in life, something to achieve to strive for. This what we call having expectations. We have expectations from ourselves, from others. These expectations & what we do to fulfill them shapes our life and helps it turn out how we expect it to be. Having made expectations isn't enough we have to work in order to convert it into reality. If only, it would have been that simple everyone would have been happy and none of the problems would have had existed. But many a times what you expect isn't what you get. Your actions might go haywire impacting them adversely or they might change mid-way or a rather once in a blue moon situation you end up getting far more than what you had expected. These expectations are not constant your entire life, they change with varying time, your state of mind, the environment around you etc. What you expected at age ten might change as you climb up the stairs.

As a kid I used to think this is what is to be done as told by adults. But that was something I regret the way I did. Not asking questions or getting doubts cleared was a negative aspect on my side. The perfect kid that I used to be who obeyed everything was now idolized. A change occurred as my mental state matured. The doubts started growing and freedom was what I needed. bits of freedom was provided but I wanted more resulting in a furious me. This is what started the cycle of Comparison and Expectations.

Comparison with the adolescent child and pushing expectation onto a teenage child. The freedom that he desired wasn't given instead more weights were added upon. These expectations imposed pushed him to certain limits. A few years he tried hard fulfilling yet miserably failing in some. As he progressed more and more expectations piled due to a never ending comparison. Comparison of a child or a person to another leads to two consequences, Firstly, he just keeps on grinding just to beat the certain he is being compared to and results in a grudge feeling. Secondly, the potential limit he could have achieved gets limited at a certain lower level. This continued for years embeds you with the feeling of comparison. Everywhere you compare and harm their true potential gradually turning into simple minded creatures with narrow mindset. Pressurizing your expectations onto your child and making him fulfill it might not be what his true potential connects with. It might not only make him more stressed but would make him hate whatever he does.

Now, Friends, you have many expectations from your friends, like to be with you forever, never lie to you, never hurt you knowingly or unknowingly etc. But what if I told you that even the closest and the dearest of your friends would fail to live up to those expectations a couple of times. This might hurt you, you might feel betrayed but, that's when they need you the most. Before jumping onto sudden conclusions just think of the deep bonds you shared, the years you've been friends for, would he or she in a sound state of mind hurt you or betray you knowingly ? Suppose you got furious and yelled at them. Later when you understand the situation whether you feel sorry or not you could never understand the pain you could have caused to the other because you couldn't trust him. Coming from me you would not feel if you've never felt it from the latter's side. Having felt it I know how my other friends feel when I do the same to them. Whatever you do, whatever you expect never let those push you into making hasty judgments.

Never let your Expectations cloud your judgement. Firstly try to understand what and who are fulfilling your expectations utmost and are you doing the same for them. What if sometime they collapse, don't let those emotions overpower, don't let it turn into anger. Not all expectations have a destination, some have to be dropped and new ones have to be formulated. Sticking to a single perspective never gives better results. Having numerous perspective allows you to form better expectations suited to your goal, your life. Might happen it has some positive effects on the life of others.