Anger & Guilt

Anger or Wrath, present in each and every human and that too one of the most dominant emotion. So, what really is Anger ? Is it a result of failure, or is it due to sadness, or the outcome of an emotional or physical bruise to a superfluity level ? Rather it is the protective mechanism to cover up for fear, hurt and sadness. This Anger is highly active in some and at a lower level in others depending on the persons tolerance. It happens because some humans get irritated or rather provoked easily . Their insecurity complex arises and takes control and turns that heat into Anger. Jealousy is also a good fuel to your Angst. This is also insecurity as you are unable to see someone climb higher than you knowing you can't compete him. You lack confidence in yourself and to hide it you shield it with this illogical Anger of yours. This frustration continuously fuel that Angst until you climb higher than that person.

Now, this Anger when erupts it gushes out onto the next person you meet or the next thing that irritates you. Your Anger is also a weakness that you use to cloak your other weaknesses. So, on whoever you take out all that pent up heat of your Anger is just a victim to your unjust. Just because you are incapable of overcoming your weakness,someone else suffers and this doesn't end here as the Anger you let out on him planted the seedling of anger into the victim. Some try to suppress their Anger but it can neither be controlled nor bound without mental peace. A point comes when it starts leaking out little by little affecting and irritating you without any reason. This becomes evident to others and affects your bonding with others.

In Anger we tend to cuss someone and just unknowingly scratch the sophisticated and intimate memories and thoughts hurting the other badly. Now, as for me I used to face this aggression on a daily basis, mostly from parents and friends. In case of my friends, they used to yell at me because their irritation turned into Angst had to be taken out somewhere. Few years back Anger used to flow through my veins like blood, I was a short-tempered guy but as years passed it just faded away. This helped me a lot as my friends would have all their heat drained out and the anger wasn't passed on. But the irony here arises that those who yelled realize someday later their fault but couldn't muster up their courage to accept the Guilt, rather start talking normally expecting me to forget whatever happened which I had long forsaken. Even if you aren't that forgiving type, you start onto the incident and their first reply will be " You had Fault too ".  Maybe you were faulty too maybe not but in either case they won't take full responsibility. That's something I learned at an early stage.

With Anger accompanies Guilt. If you have let out your Anger onto someone you also have to accept the Guilt that comes along Free. The feeling of Sorry is felt by everyone yet only few muster up the courage to accept and ask for an apology. These are the ones who truly values the other person and respects because he value the others feelings more than his own self-esteem. Those who can't muster up the courage for an apology also feel sorry but they can't speak up due to insecurity of getting their self-esteem bruised. Having lived a fair share of life and met a bunch of people it is evident that Anger isn't justified in most cases and end up harming the person itself. It had a bad affect on your personality and behavior. The more you become Angry at someone the more he distances himself from you even after calming down. This blot takes eternity to be removed and once it exceeds a limit relationship is sure to be doomed for lifetime.

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